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Survival Glimpse - 01 खोलें

Composed,
From childhood till you grew up, you kept on earning for them, without taking even a single day of rest, and since the time you wanted something for yourself, one by one everyone has gone away from you.
[ You were never allowed to play, nor did you get any leave from the shop. The school was closed, they always tried to make you quit your studies, kept discouraging you, kept getting angry about studying. And even after completing your CS, you were not allowed to work. You were always scolded, you were only allowed to learn as much as was necessary to do the work, what you liked was always suppressed. You were kept away from all the relatives, everyone, even your grandparents, you were not allowed to meet them and they always spoke ill of them. And even then you believed that everything would be fine one day. You used to go to your maternal grandparents' house by bus at 5 in the night, and were called back at 6 in the morning every time. Every single time.]
[ The whole village has seen you, there are daily activities that you were a part of, standing there, working. All your relatives have seen your childhood and also the fact that you never came to their house. ]

Everyone went away, everyone has their own reasons for believing so, and you too have your own reasons, if they were similar then things would have worked out, but they are different, if someone sits and talks then maybe things would work out, but you tried this also for years, it is clear that no one wants a reconciliation.

In your efforts you did too much, you kept doing it, thinking it was your own but that too became a joke.


You were sent to the city also on the condition that you would work there as well and earn money, more than in the shop. The computer was sent with you and you would do office work the whole day, filling forms and taking coaching as well. Some months in the city, remaining months again in the shop and three years of study passed like this, here also you did not have even a minute's leave, every day and every hour you would talk to your father on the phone. You were among new people but there was no time to meet and talk. Even on the day of exams your father would scold you and send you to the office.

In the midst of all this, you also get a new bike, a sports bike, you are happy with it but after some time you have a scooty, your father drives the bike, and that girl is also doing dirty things on that. Was this not enough, but the father does this to the family of the girl on the pretext of making her his daughter-in-law, and the girl also seems to be a part of it, even then you had so much courage and understanding, Rachit, that as soon as you got to know about making you his daughter-in-law, you got her permanent treatment done the same day, after that the girl was not seen sitting on a bike again. You have to keep that courage always and not forget it. No matter how much time changes, Rachit, never trust a father who has such a mindset . And not the entire family either, who do not take this matter seriously and ignore it even when told.

Your father's behavior toward women has always troubled you since childhood, and with time you have now realized that his respect in society is very low in this matter.


While living at your father's house, you thought about dying many times in your childhood, and such thoughts kept coming continuously even for the last two-three years.

And you don't want to take money or property because you have no attachment to it, you did not feel any benefit in having money, you were working there, and in the name of relationships you were made to work, today you are away from them and are feeling new relationships, and are doing your own work, today you are feeling freedom, that is why you are able to say very strongly that you don't want their property, and father also told you about property every day, according to that he has bought you with money, and according to you you are not a thing that can be bought, that is why you don't want to sell yourself by taking money or property.


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Glimpse of Survival - 02 खोलें


Rachit, you should not forget that you got to know what a normal family is like only when you were 20 years old and you found it surprising. And all that was a normal situation just like in every other household. And even there, your father stopped you from going there. Your mother was also with you and she also said things to you.

Rachit, you should not forget that your father harassed you so much that because of him you burnt all your mark sheets, notes and all documents after 10th standard. You had more than 100 books and notebooks of your college and CS combined.

Rachit A father is always happy with all these things, with his child's studies and marksheet, your father does not love him and so does the whole family because no one can see it or there is nothing to be done about it. You do not even have to lighten your mind by talking about it.

Rachit, you thought of dying many times, and once it was decided, that is why you burnt everything related to your studies, but even after dying was decided, you were prepared to live like a living dead until your younger sister graduates. This was your commitment, and you took care of him for more five-six years, replied to everything he said about the house and father, but when you needed him, he did not have time to even talk, he refused to do so, Rachit, never trust him.


Rachit, even after all this, there was one year when you had forgotten everything, you had forgiven everyone, and all your focus was on studies and you were successful too, if father had stayed there then maybe everything would have been fine, you had talked clearly with father too though he did not help you in studies, he had made a deal that you will get two years and you will study and earn so much that father will not have to work anymore. But only one year went well, he again stopped your studies, and he is such a mean person that after stopping your studies he says that two years have passed and you are not earning that much now. Never trust such a mean person. He did not fulfill any of his duties as a father so he did not owe you anything, he took the wrong advantage of being a father, God will definitely punish him for that.


stopover - stopover

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Glimpse of Survival - 03 खोलें

Rachit, never forget the kind of environment you lived in to pass the CS exam, you can do anything.
And because of his father he had to leave it. Still you started a new work in such a time. Never forget this courage. You can do anything at any time and be successful.
And never trust such a father, nor a family that cannot see all this.

"The kind of life my father has given me till date, there is not even one day of it that I want to live again. "

A father is a hero for any child.
Father is the best person in the world.
The safest place is with your father.
Any child trusts his father the most.
Only a father can think of the best thing for a child.
These are just some examples, it is not possible to describe this relationship in words.

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How many mental situations, questions, confusions does a child have to go through to accept his father as wrong, to get away from him, to be separated from him forever? Rachit, you have had to bear all this your whole life so far, every single day. Now get away from all this and forget it forever.


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Survival Glimpse - 04 खोलें

Rachit, the vile acts of such a vile father will keep on happening never ending if you don't stop him and stay away from him. In the name of ourselves, in the name of relations he will consume you, and also your wife and children. He has tried everything to ruin everybody's life. You have tried to make him understand again and again, given him chances, talked to him, threatened him, took money twice so much, but his acts and habits have not stopped. And your life is getting disturbed and ruined, every day, and he has completely poisoned the family against you.

Rachit, remember the courage you had when you left home, it is because of that that your life has improved and your real identity has been formed in the society and in relationships. Yes, but your own family members could not see this nor could they stay with you, now you should stay away from them.

Rachit, you have taken a big decision of not taking property, you have a lot of courage,
You have given many chances to your father, you have a lot of love for him and a desire to maintain the relationship, but he has betrayed you every time, even your wife does not feel safe in the house, this was his last mistake, from where the relationship was over. After that you both were never close, you were not together, but a social relationship could have been maintained but he did not maintain even that, he did not stop his activities. You were so strong even at that time that you were able to keep yourself and your wife away from such a person from that day itself, even if for that you had to leave the house or all the property of your father.

He tried to trap you in money, that when you first agreed to pay for his studies, it was a deal for two years but in between he took you into confidence and got you married and stopped giving you money, due to which your studies got stopped. He is such a low person that he wanted to blame you for ruining his entire year, by calling you for help for a few days, it is good that you fought with him on this matter that very day.

After this you had the courage to start everything again from scratch and earn money and not go back to the shop of such a father. Even after that he kept harassing you as much as he could.

After marriage everyone stays happy and roams around, but he gave you so much worries and even stopped giving you money for food. Despite being so rich, you did not get money for food or clothes in your own house during the first 18 months of your marriage. Never forget that time. After that you even took money from him by threatening him but his meanness did not go away.

You had to leave your house, then your family also started falling apart.

Never forget the way your father and each and every member of the family behaved when your wife needed you the most during her pregnancy. The attitude of everyone during these two years, during the first miscarriage and till the second delivery, was absolutely correct.

You have taken so many decisions, never forget this ability and remember that no matter what happens, you will always find a solution and there will never be a need to be disheartened and now there will be no problem as you have left the problems behind, now you have no relations with anyone far and wide and along with it the entire society, family, relatives are all observing this and are giving them support and affection too.


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Survival Glimpse - 05 खोलें

Where was mother in all this? Why didn't she do anything? She should tell us about all this

And where are the two sisters? Please tell me what they have to say about this? Has nothing like this happened? Do they understand Rachit's problems?

If no one wants to talk about this, what should Rachit understand now? And why don't all of us together stop the father or clarify our position?


Your father kept you engaged in earning money for ten years and because of this, he took away your childhood and playing, took away your studies, ruined your already established career - not even a single day of this time was yours?
And since you wanted to do something for yourself, he has been trying to stop you and break you down, he kept turning the people at home, in society, and even in-laws against you for the next ten years - and even here, not even a single day was yours!

And the family, when you asked them for help they don't listen to you, they don't even understand any of your problems. You were not kept at home from your childhood till you grew up, not even for a single day, so for them you were just a working machine, which has now broken down because father is saying this and everybody in the family is believing this, even mother, sister for whom I fought with father for so many years for her problems, sister-nephews, all with whom I was always ready to play and have fun, no one is even listening to you, leave alone helping you. They listen to father more than you.



No one in your entire family can even say a single word for you. All your relatives have understood and experienced this.



You always thought about your mother that she also gets scolded when wrong things happen to her, that is why you do not expect anything from her as to why she does not help. But with time so many things kept happening that you did not even realise whether your mother was there or not, more than being your mother she played the role of your father's wife and obeyed him no matter how bad things were or how much you were suffering, she found it more important to obey her husband's 'words' than her son's sufferings. Even if she was causing so much to him...

And you had the same idea for everybody else, and everybody did something like that. ...

You loved your elder sister's house. You used to play with your nephews too.

Your sisters and brother in law will keep you away because they will get crores of rupees from this property; after separating your only brother, there will be no one there.

Father did not give you anything since childhood, you were only fed as much food as was necessary to work, at the shop, in the tiffin, whether you were a 12 year old child or 20 years old, have you ever eaten food at home during the day in between? Have you stayed at home even for a single day except during illness? Have you played even for a single day with boys of your age? Have you stayed anywhere for a day or two in a wedding? Have you stayed at your maternal grandparents' house for even two days continuously during that time? The answer to all is no, meaning your father has not given you anything, he has only snatched it, and your mother also did not say or do anything in this, and your sisters do not see this at all. Because your sisters have got everything till date at home, whether it is studying or going somewhere, you used to get scolded at least two or three times a day, your sisters would not have heard as much scolding as you would have received in a month, so how will they understand your problem. And if they don't understand now, only then will they get all the property.

You are thirty-six years old. Has any year in the last twenty-four years gone by without any problems given by your father? No, right? A father is there to remove problems. When you are growing up, a father helps you to build your life, not to ruin it.

And the family, they don't even think about all this. They don't feel it at all, they want their own comforts and money, they don't want humans.

Does your father have any friends? Family members? Do your parents have anyone of their own? They both demand answers from their parents and ask questions.

All the relatives of the society have given the same opinion about your father and the family in the last few years. Ever since you told everyone about your situation, everyone has seen, understood and experienced him and told you that he is a person without any affection, hollow from inside and is not related to anyone.


You should forget everything.

And your family, they already think you are wrong, and they get angry when you ask for help from anyone else. Their hatred for you increases that how can you talk to anyone outside the house and ask for help, because you were just a machine for them, who works and earns money, and keeps his mouth shut.


stopover - stopover

glimpse of survival
Survival Glimpse - 06 खोलें

Composed,
It is possible that you may have had attacks from time to time thinking that you could have done something right, or was it your fault somewhere? Could your own mistakes be the reason behind all this? They may think so, but you have not made any such big mistake, you are not so strange that no one can live with you, apart from the whole family, you have met many people in the rest of the world, since childhood at the shop, in the office, teachers, there are so many friends whom you meet less and all your relatives, young and old, but no one thinks that you are such a person with whom one cannot live, everyone thinks the opposite, you are a good person according to everyone, and a little strange and the reason for this is also that you do not open up in front of anyone, do not stay for long with friends, because staying makes the mind light and you talk and you did not want to share all your household matters with anyone, because your sisters had told you so, and you followed that too, adapted it in your life. You are such a person that you never spoke a single word against your father to anyone, even after he did so much . You kept everything in your mind, and kept your mind away from everyone, this was the reason why you did not open up in front of anyone.

This can be possible because since childhood, a lot of attempts were made to prove you wrong. Your father never made you feel that you were right. You have been manipulated a lot, like your father has been harassing you since childhood, and despite that, he is so shameless that he had put up such posters in the house which showed that "as sons grow up, their father starts finding their father right", and through those posters your father keeps proving that you will find him right one day. Like, in childhood, you were not allowed to play even for a day, and when you got busy with your college studies, your father made you understand the need to play, so that you get distracted from your studies. You used to cry, you have broken old glass bottles many times.


Composed,
Leaving behind their fear, going to your relatives and telling them everything was the best decision of yours, even if any of them ever blames you because you had given them all a chance for so many years. Never forget all those who helped you in saving yourself from such a person and family and gave you the right advice.

Rachit, you have a great ability to take decisions, use it for good work by staying away from all this and move ahead. There was a time in your life where there were more people who would say bad things to you, stop you and make you feel bad, today you are away from all of them and there are more good people in your life.

Rachit, you have a very strong ability and desire to maintain relationships. The way you thought right for the family and endured it for so many years shows that you are a good person and a person with a clean heart. Now you don’t need to get a certificate of relationship from your father and family. Now you need to tell them your position in all this.

Rachit, this is the same father who tried to scare you to expand the family, sometimes he threatened to separate your children from you, it would be better to stay away from such a person, such thoughts at any age are enough to ruin a home, no 'father' talks like this to his son, he is a monster hidden under the shadow of the word father.

Do not commit any mistake under any pressure. The decisions you have taken till date, whatever situation you were in, have been the biggest decisions and you have fulfilled them. Now you will never need to take bigger decisions than those and you are also becoming stronger every day so everything will be easy.